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Books by
Sharon Kuhn

The Steroid for Your Child's Self Esteem Volume 1

Empathy the Steroid for Your Child's Self Esteem Part 1 describes how relationship sculpts the brain, how to amplify bonding at any age, and how to use four of the most foundational personality facets to build love bonds for a secure attachment dance! Gain insight into emotional recovery, keys for reducing anxiety in children and adults as well as steps for building joyful identity, because “it’s the little steps that make the dance!” Cost $20

Self Esteem Kit
10 Tools for self-discovery, self-awareness, and self-regulation

The purpose of the Unique EQ Self-Esteem Kit is to increase empathy for yourself and your loved ones. You’ll discover ten brain-changing personality facets through which to affirm your loved ones’ unique identity. By understanding specific nuances and preferences, you’ll learn how to deeply connect with them in ways that impact your relationships forever. When your loved ones, or anyone to whom you want to share value (coworkers, students, patients, etc.) feel seen and understood for who they really are, they will receive your support and love in ways that grow their self esteem. Cost is $10 per tool.

What People are Saying

Sharon has put her passion and heart into the plight of traumatized populations. Her Attach, Attempt, Achieve program is groundbreaking in terms of reaching children and families at the core of healing… Schools and communities could greatly benefit by incorporating her program which addresses the crucial need of attachment for disenfranchised children and the adults who care for them.

- John Micsak, National Institute for Resiliency and Wellness

Without this book, our culture will remain in unnecessary ignorance. Our nation needs these insights for our families to heal.

- Margaret (Gret) Machlan, MSW, LCSW, LCAC

A Peak Inside the Book

The following is an excerpt from a story told in chapter 1

Banging her head on the desk, threatening to kill her teacher and classmates, third -grade Carlie cries out for help. Her threatened classmates are too stunned and frightened to feel her pain. Her well-meaning teacher asks her to stop her tantrum. She proceeds to stand beside Carlie’s desk and gently but firmly say “Carlie, you are interrupting the lesson for everyone. You must stop your tantrum and violent threats or go to the principal’s office.”

Unable to calm herself, pounding her head violently, engulfed in depression and hopelessness, Carlie escalates. Her teacher calls the principal to the classroom. The students stare at Carlie kicking, fighting, and screaming as the Principal and his aid struggle to remove her from the room.

What caused this violent episode? What does Carlie need? Why can’t she connect calmly with them? How do students and teachers recover from such classroom trauma and will this affect them later?


In this book, we will look at how self-esteem for self-regulation is nurtured, organized, and developed in the brain. We will explore how unique identity is genetically available and waiting for experiences of empathy to organize it into self-esteem. We will look at the plight of children like Carlie, and well-meaning adults like her teacher and parents who deserve tools to tap into the power of empathy for developing and integrating their child or loved-one’s unique self-esteem.

What You Will Learn

Sharon blends clinical and personal dialogue as the reader gets to know her and her five children in addition to some of her students and clients (whose names have been changed) in stories of everyday people who turn everyday difficulties into bondable and lovable moments for building self-esteem.

Combine attachment techniques, personality traits, neural science and the latest research on attachment to gift a person with the experience of feeling seen and embraced for who they really are and build or rebuild their self-esteem.

The book explains that a person is born with a unique identity, however only through secure attachment will they have brain maps to fully embrace or express it. Receiving love through affirmation draws identity out of isolation and into belonging. The result is the chemical imprint of empathy which integrates the brain’s attachment center, the most mature region being the prefrontal cortex, the executive functioning of joyful identity and higher reasoning.

Learn to look beyond behavior and discover a person’s true heart.

Learn how your loved one uniquely recieves love for body, mind, and spirit wellness for self-esteem.

A parent’s love is the infant’s whole world - their connection to a joful self.

Learn how an empathetic parent reduces power struggles while empowering their child’s self-esteem.

Learn how to bring emotions out of isolation and into belonging.